About 4.5 years ago I chopped off 11 inches of my hair and rocked a very cute dark brown pixie cut. It was super feminine and I felt free as a bird for about 3 months – then regret set in. My husband confessed that he liked my long hair better and I felt immensely guilty (he was super nice about it though! The guilt is on me, not him!) So I embarked on the year long process of growing it out. I loved every stage. I had a fantastic hair stylist who helped me love every phase of that journey. Now this last year, I was finally back to my wedding-era long luscious thick hair. Oh, and it was heavy. So damn heavy. It gave me headaches if I wore it up too long. So ah, yeah, CHOP to the bob. I was happy with that for 6 months (my average length of time with any one particular hair style hahahahaha. What can I say? #creativefreespirit). That too felt hot and heavy ( 😉 ) So I tried the undercut. I LOVE the undercut. Ladies, if you have thick heavy hair and you DON’T want to go pixie, go undercut. Amazing. I digress…
I went running back to the pixie last month. I was so ready. I’m honestly a different person than the last time I had a pixie cut. My self confidence is way up up up, I have two tattoos (more in my future), I am more minimalist now, and just in general I feel more like my badass internal self. I have hidden her for too long. Hello world! Meet me.
I still hesitated though, and had a minor panic attack the first few days every time I caught sight of myself in the mirror. “What have I done???????!!!!!!” I also anxiously gauged whether or not my husband still found me attractive (news flash: if you’re in a healthy relationship, he is not going to care if you change your appearance, and his sex drive is not going to tank because of your hair!) He was slightly shocked, but yeah, he’s a guy, we’re all goooood. 😉
I was curious though, if all guys were as awesome as mine and would still be turned on by a pixie. Turns out… nope. Google it. It’s super depressing. I found dozens of articles and message boards with advice saying “Before you chop your hair… read this!” Turns out a lot of guys really don’t like short hair on women. All the studies show it. Now… before you’re like “See you shouldn’t have done it.” or “You’re lucky you’re married. If you were single you’d be screwed!”
TIME OUT. What year is it?!
I could totally go into a feminist rant here, but I’m assuming most of you would totally tune me out. So instead, I want to share what a super cute guy on the internet said about girls with pixie cuts:
“I think I’ve come to associate the pixie cut with rebellious women of above average intelligence, both of which are qualities I find extremely attractive. If the pixie cut is in an unnatural color, like blue, or purple, it’s even hotter. A friend of mine once described my type as “punk rocker chicks who happen to be rocket scientists.”” Howie Reith, on Quora “What do straight men think of pixie cuts?”
Nuff said. (but read his whole post, it’s a great explanation of the gender stuff going on with women and short hair.)
Oh, and I totally still got “catcalled” the other day, and it was the sweetest catcall ever. Guy yells out the car window as I’m walking down the sidewalk “I LOVE YOUR HAIR!!! GORGEOUS!!!” Totally made my day.
But seriously. I don’t need mankind’s validation to feel beautiful. I shouldn’t need anyone’s validation. But hey, I am a words of affirmation sort of person, and it’s a huge confidence boost when I get a compliment. So yeah, don’t “need” it. Definitely don’t mind it.
Some things I love about my Pixie:
- SO EASY.
- Looks so cute with earrings and edgy jewelry
- Highlights the neck and facial features. Especially when played up with some rockin’ makeup.
- Instantly makes me look like a badass in a dress
- So light and cool when working out in the heat!
- Bonus: the bedhead is like a sexy Tinkerbell (you’re welcome)
Some tips if you are considering a pixie cut or already have one and need help loving it:
- Find a really good stylist! They are worth it!
- Wash your hair everyday (but not with shampoo) See above.
- Always use products with some kind of texturizer. I love the paste I linked above, and also this air wax spray. Ask your stylist for tips!
- Get trims often. Like every 3-4 weeks at least on your neck and around your ears.
- If you struggle to feel feminine in your pixie (and that’s the look you want) wear lipstick and mascara. Wear earrings and fun flirty shoes. (The right shoes can completely change an outfit!)
- Look up inspiration from celebs and others who rock pixie cuts!
- Always remember that its your hair. You do you.
P.S. Some of you might be asking yourselves if I will ever grow out my hair again. The answer is most likely yes. I love changing my hair. It’s a fun creative expression of my personality. So yeah, I’ll probably grow it out again at some point. But next time… I’ll grow it out for ME.